The Least You Need to Do to Save Your Marriage

The least you need to do to save your marriage is to keep your relationship minty fresh. Read, digest and ponder. Then get your diary, big red pen and start prioritising your relationship. This article contains three golden rules of a healthy relationship-the sine qua non sexually happiness. All the technique and creativity in the world isn't going to fix the problems in the relationship where the couple is together but not together. On the other hand, couples that spend time together, and anticipate and plan for those times, find it hard to lose interest in one another.

Rule 1: Daily

How is your partner feeling right now? What's happening at work? How are their relationships with friends, colleagues, siblings, parents? Find fifteen minutes of each every day to talk. If you find yourselves getting into a rut of busy-ness, when you pass like ships in the night for several days in row without touching base, either go to bed before your usual time or get up earlier and have coffee together so you can touch base.

Kiss your partner every morning before you get out of bed. Take the time for a swift cuddle. Breathe deeply. Hold tightly. Do the same at night. Never take your physical intimacy for granted. In this Vale of Tears we call life you found each other. Pretty amazing.

Tip: Look for ways to cheer your partner up. Pick up a tub of their favourite ice-cream on the way home from work. Run him a bath and bring him a beer. Sappy gestures work- they build up a huge bank of goodwill that you can draw on when life gets stressful. And these are things that will save your marriage.

Rule 2: Weekly

Go out with each other once a week where humanly possible. Once a fortnight is the bare minimum. According to experts, this is the most important thing you can do. Couples, who keep dating, keep mating. Spending too long sloping around the same house does something to a couple's sexual interest in each other and what it does generally isn't good. So get out, preferably after making some small effort to tart yourself up so you're visually pleasing to your partner. Let them see why they bothered with you in the first place. This is not rocket science but these rules will save your marriage.

Rule 3: Monthly

You have to go for a mini-adventure - shared memories cement your relationship. Make your adventure as mad or staid as you like, but at least make sure it's something that you haven't done since the beginning of your relationship. It really doesn't matter what it is, as long as it's not your usual 'date', The point is seeing your partner coping with new environments and new skills and that keeps you interested in them. And them in you. It's that simple to saving your marriage and having a better relationship.

Finally, research shows quite clearly that one of the defining differences between strong couples and 'drifting' couples is the amount of effort and time they spend on their shared pursuits. All of us have heard the advice, 'Spend more time with each other being as interesting as possible.' But how many couples do you know who actually do it? I'm sure to bet that those who do seem happiest.

Follow the three golden rules and you are on your way to saving your marriage.

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